Lily has always been a popular kid. She has lots of friends but that said, she doesn't have a best friend. She is bubbly, smart, friendly and very very outgoing. She is also very very smart. Yes, I know I mentioned it already but it deserves a second go around. She is in classes above her grade level so the kids are older and more mature than her. The maturity difference is HUGE. She is mature but obviously she isn't going to be as mature as kids 2 years older than her. At swimming she swims with kids older than her In everything she does she is surrounded by older kids. She gets on with them just fine but when it comes to parties or sleep overs or getties she is left out.
Yesterday we went over to a friends house. When we got back she saw on Instagram that one of her close friends had had some swimteam friends over. She thought she was in that that inner sanctum. She was left out. AGAIN. She pretended she wasn't hurt.
I knew better, after I put her to bed I made a stealth attack about 20 minutes later and found her quietly crying. Oh MY WORD. break. my. heart. and. rip. it. out.
We talked it through. She says she just wants to know what it is like to have a friend. She doesn't like living here cos everyone speaks Spanish as their first language and we don't. Truth be told, I don't like it either for that reason. It makes it hard to makes friends. We don't share customs with Hispanics. My heart breaks for her. She wants so badly to move somewhere else. I can't tell her I do too. That won't help anything although I think she knows I want to live near my family.
I told her her school is very small and once she gets to high school a whole new world will open up for her. But until then I have a kid who doesn't have a friend to call her own and there is no way of knowing that she will get one in high school cos those kids will already have friends.